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Saturday, January 19, 2008

Our Adoption Journey, Part 7

If you are just joining us, please refer to the following posts first:
Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5, Part 6

February 14, 1995
Valentine's Day

Dave and I went out to dinner to celebrate Valentine's Day and to get a break from the phone, from staring at it, waiting for it to ring. We walked in the door and to our astonishment, the phone was ringing.


"Hello Alison. This is A."

My heart stopped. Time stood still.

"Hello A", I stammered. "How are you?"

"Good. Happy Valentine's Day. Are you ready to be a Mom?"

That is exactly what she said. Those 7 words changed my life forever. In that moment the breath I was unaware I was holding left my body. The smile that grew on my face let my husband know that finally we had some good news. In that moment I forgot about the pain, the waiting, the disappointments, the anger, the fear, the hurt. I felt immense joy, immense love, immense peace.

"Yes A, I am ready to be a Mom."

We talked, we cried. She said that she wanted to give us a Valentine's Day gift and that was why she waited until then to call. I was astounded by her maturity and selflessness. Through all her soul searching and decision making, she thought about us and wanted to give us a gift.

The Gift she is giving us is the Gift of Parenthood. Words cannot describe the immensity of this Gift. This young woman is selflessly putting the needs of your unborn baby before her own. She has made the commitment of 10 months of pregnancy, labor, give someone she just met a Gift. She will trust us to love and cherish her baby and give her baby a life she would love to, but is unable to. She will trust us with her Gift and we will trust her to take care of her Gift while she has possession of It. She will have It for 10 months, we will have It for a lifetime. We will both hold her Gift in our hearts forever.

The baby is due on May 31. We have plenty of time to ready ourselves and our home for our new addition. No rush this time. We don't need to travel. A lives 45 minutes away from us. We are able to talk and visit frequently. We are able to establish a relationship and a bond. We are able to form a trusting relationship. Adoption is all about trust - A trusts us with her most precious Gift, and we trust A to allow us to parent her most precious Gift.

The birthfather is open and accepting towards the adoption. Unfortunately, we are unable to meet him. He signs his papers before the birth and we are able to terminate his parental rights quite easily. A will sign papers terminating her parental rights after the birth of the baby. She will have 2 weeks to change her mind. We don't any qualms about this. We already trust her.

The pregnancy is very normal and A is very healthy. I am able to attend doctor's appointments with her and I am able to see our baby for the first time 2 weeks before the birth. The baby is very large and her doctor wanted to get a final ultrasound to determine the baby's weight. I go with her to this appointment and see our beautiful baby girl for the first time on the ultrasound screen. Yes, she is a girl!! She appears to be healthy and everything is going along smoothly. We are estatic...we are overjoyed...words cannot fully express our feelings....our feet do not touch the ground when we walk.

A week later I am at work when I receive a phone call from A.

to be continued....


Cynthia said...

On the edge of my seat!!

lisa's chaos said...

cliffhanger. So cruel! I knew she'd pick you. :) How exciting!

Melanie said...

Oooooo, you're very good. Way to leave me hanging. I've never visited before- so I had to go back and read some of your old ones too. I can't wait to hear the next part!!

I've added you to the Blogaholics Anonymous blogroll. Welcome to the club!
Livin' With Me

manda said...

ok...ok..I'm addicted now. You have to post the next one soon! :)

Blue Momma said...

I can't wait to hear more. I wish a baby girl was on the way to my house!

You sure have a nice layout. Love the purple! You must have had a really rockin' helper!

bermudabluez said...

I. Can't. Wait. P L E A S E Continue!!!!

Beccy said...

You sure are queen of the cliffhangers! Can't wait for the next part.

david mcmahon said...

G'day from Australia,

I can't wait for the next instalment ...

Keep smiling


ChrisB said...

Now should I still be smiling or is there a shock coming~ I do hope not!

suchsimplepleasures said...

finally!!! hey...did you see juno? i saw it last night and, i couldn't help but think of you and your story!!
hope you're having an awesome weekend!!

suchsimplepleasures said...

hey, it's not a paid post. a lady approached me, via email, explaining that she enjoyed my writing style and asked if i would write a little review. i checked out the site and...honestly...i loved it!!! so, i said sure. but, i did not get paid for it. i'm trying to look into doing paid reviews...but, i'm not sure how and...i hardly think they will all come calling, the way that lady did!!! but, check it out...really! i think you'll like it...but, do me a favor, write what you think about it on my comment form, whether negative or positive...i'm supposed to send over comments!!

suchsimplepleasures said...

hey...i have a little something for you over on my blog!!

Debra w said...


Please tell me that everything is okay! My heart cannot take the stress. I keep reminding myself that you ARE a Mommy now, but I want things to go smoothly for you. Cannot wait to hear the rest of the story.

Big hugs,

Chrys said...

what a sweet v'tines gift! keep it coming.

Chrys said...

what a sweet v'tines gift! keep it coming.

Irene Latham said...

You should seriously consider writing a memoir. One of the things we look for as writers is a turn-the-page factor... the burning question of "what happens next?" The whole goal is to make the reader turn that page. It's exactly what you are doing here!
What an exciting/thrilling time that must have been for you! Thanks for sharing.

Andrya said...

Nice try with the cliff hanger. Cassie is fine.She's beautiful & healthy & strong. You can't fool me. I feel it in my heart. I love you all too much! I can't wait to see you again!