tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-432350654444522232.post8125208539116348115..comments2023-10-10T07:16:40.358-07:00Comments on RDH Mom: Decisions, Decisions, DecisionsAlisonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07609471622265969310noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-432350654444522232.post-10067682279354449452008-07-07T15:31:00.000-07:002008-07-07T15:31:00.000-07:00I love what Jan said about how breaking that board...I love what Jan said about how breaking that board must have been worth about $40.00! <BR/><BR/>My heart goes out to both you and Cass. It's so hard to deal with people who have different ethics than we do. You are teaching her to listen to her own instinct and that will serve her very well. <BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>DebDebrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05328458241519464529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-432350654444522232.post-69154199343781362452008-07-05T15:24:00.000-07:002008-07-05T15:24:00.000-07:00Bless her heart! I don't know why kids...girls......Bless her heart! I don't know why kids...girls...have to be so mean!!! And, to steal!!! That is just infuriating! <BR/>Good for her on her karate accomplishments! I think she should make this group of kids at school aware of her abilities! :o)Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00057393478776308396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-432350654444522232.post-48303929421436876682008-07-05T13:36:00.000-07:002008-07-05T13:36:00.000-07:00You did the right thing. It hurts to watch our ch...You did the right thing. It hurts to watch our children hurt, but they have to learn, sometimes the hard way. She will be a much better, much stronger person for it.<BR/>BTW, I took my kids out of their "nice" Catholic school two years ago and I haven't looked back. Hands down, it was the best thing I could have done for my kids. Good luck!Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16687649363352766799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-432350654444522232.post-8832647657518260002008-07-04T14:48:00.000-07:002008-07-04T14:48:00.000-07:00I think you and Cassie each handled this situation...I think you and Cassie each handled this situation well. I will say that 'breaking that board' might be worth 40 bucks.Janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13716690020687995783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-432350654444522232.post-62940810798307145342008-07-04T09:29:00.000-07:002008-07-04T09:29:00.000-07:00bummer!we had a similar situation at our house las...bummer!<BR/><BR/>we had a similar situation at our house last month (i blogged about it). CRAZY! it would have NEVER occured to me to take something that didn't belong to me. at least "friend" didn't take ALL of Cassie's money, that would have been an even harder lesson.<BR/><BR/>J still talks about the "friend" who stole from her. i think she was soooo willing to forgive in the beginning, out of not understanding the gravity of the situation, i think the mor she has thought about it the more angry she gets.<BR/><BR/>life lessons are the hardest of them all...Mamarazzihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11053091142306052509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-432350654444522232.post-55499264307657883212008-07-03T21:04:00.000-07:002008-07-03T21:04:00.000-07:00cassie, is a great girl. she really is special and...cassie, is a great girl. she really is special and the world needs more people like her. MY DAD is one who is very trusting and continues to trust even when scorned. i believe it is a talent and a spiritual gift to be so christlike. everyone has their agency. they will answer one day.tiki_ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06514668932799794084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-432350654444522232.post-30769521975180991992008-07-03T16:22:00.000-07:002008-07-03T16:22:00.000-07:00What a tough situation for all of you! We want so...What a tough situation for all of you! We want so much to protect them from the harsh realities of life, but you know, it really is true "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger." What better time to get stronger than when you still have your parents in the house to catch you? Kudos to you for allowing Cassie some decision-making power. There are many issues (of course) that kids just aren't equipped to make decisions about and it's then that we parents MUST step in and shelter them. Sigh. Tough job, this parenting biz. But yeah, karate is great!! One of mine did it for 2 years. Very confidence-building. I see good things happening there. xxooIrene Lathamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04905936104127707762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-432350654444522232.post-65526513065192816802008-07-03T14:18:00.000-07:002008-07-03T14:18:00.000-07:00I don't think you're a bad person for that!I'm sor...I don't think you're a bad person for that!<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry that Cassie has to deal with girls like that! What I've found is that when girls like that want to be around wonderful people like Cassie it's because they see how great she is and how wonderful she is. Yes, it's partly about taking advantage but I think part of it is because they see that Cassie is such a great person and they want to know her.<BR/><BR/>That's very little consolation for a teenager but as her mom you should be very proud to have raised such a wonderful young woman!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07859054715459355896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-432350654444522232.post-69924595319924976382008-07-03T04:54:00.000-07:002008-07-03T04:54:00.000-07:00Life is full of challenging moments and decisions....Life is full of challenging moments and decisions. You are doing just fine! She does need to learn who to trust herself. Trust me, my 3 girls have all been there, done that. TC was very much like Cassie. We were going to pull her out of school also at the same age. She decided to stay. Again last year we talked about pulling her out. Once again she stayed. In her case she was in the same situation as Cassie but by last year she became much more confident and fearless. She takes no crap from anyone these days. Even the teachers! LOL!<BR/><BR/>As for the not so nice "friend". I tell my kids that we can only feel sorry for people like that. If they feel the need to be so horrible to others, they can't be very happy in themselves. Its really sad.karismahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02529919522651147308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-432350654444522232.post-68950165047932113102008-07-03T04:50:00.000-07:002008-07-03T04:50:00.000-07:00I'm so sorry Cassie has to deal with a girl like t...I'm so sorry Cassie has to deal with a girl like that. It's frustrating to say the least. You made the right choice in not giveing her the money. I remember vividly when some money I had was stolen, along with a brand new purse I bought earlier that day. I assumed my mom would replace both, but I assumed wrong. AS difficult as it was, I learned a lot about taking care of my own things.<BR/><BR/>Allowing my kids to make decisions is a bit frightening. My oldest is almost 9, so it will be starting soon. (He has made good decisions about friends thus far - I hope it continues)<BR/><BR/>And yay Cassie for your Yellow belt! That's awesome!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13626432491576865096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-432350654444522232.post-38089989761995714642008-07-02T23:37:00.000-07:002008-07-02T23:37:00.000-07:00You are nicer than me, I'd have probably said some...You are nicer than me, I'd have probably said something more like "hey, take that board and go smash it over friend's head!"<BR/>It makes me so mad when kids bully.<BR/>I hope she has a better year next year!Putting the FUN in DysFUNctionalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02996772324484385959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-432350654444522232.post-85606859626553603672008-07-02T22:24:00.000-07:002008-07-02T22:24:00.000-07:00Nope! After the circumstances you put forth here, ...Nope! After the circumstances you put forth here, your comment about breaking the board definitely does not make you a bad person, not in the least!Jenihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16425701332785470116noreply@blogger.com